HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
Don’t you just love a fresh new start? New Year’s Day has always been a favorite time of year for me. There’s a feeling of newness, a fresh outlook, and a spirit of anticipation for the year ahead. The beginning of a New Year brings about talk of making resolutions, or goals, to make the year to come even better than the previous year. So today, I want to talk about why setting goals in motherhood matters, and how you can make goals that actually stick and bring about peace in you and your family’s life.
Let me begin by telling you a story to illustrate why goals matter so much. A few weeks ago, I woke up on a normal Tuesday. My son was home that day from preschool, and on those days, I try to aim for a fun activity because well, my son is three, so you know how it goes. Soon after waking, my son asked me with expectation covered all over his face, “Mom! What are we doing today?!!”. I met him with a blank stare. I thought to myself, “Oh crap. I have nothing. No plans, and this kid may tear down the house if I don’t do something quick!”
“Would you like to go to breakfast with a friend?”, I asked him.
“Uh, sure. Where? Can we go to Chick-Fil-A?”, he answered.
“Sure, I’ll see if someone can meet us there,” I replied.
It turns out that my friends were unavailable that day. So, I chose to take the two kids out by myself anyways and maybe something would come up after breakfast.
Ten minutes after arriving to the restaurant, Ezra declared that he was bored, he didn’t want hash browns, and he didn’t even care for the playhouse. This left me frustrated and as though I was a balloon in air floating with no aim or purpose.
This story is a very small illustration of what it’s like living without goals in our parenting. Obviously, goals are meant to be made for more than just a day; they’re meant to pursue a better future. So, lets first break down why making goals matter, and then we’ll talk about how to make goals that will stick and work for you and your family.
WHY GOALS MATTER:
- Making goals helps us be intentional with our time; something we don’t get back!
- Goals push us to move forward in both our personal lives, as well as our motherhood and marriage.
- The act of making goals and pursing them, teaches our children the importance of responsibility and growth.
- Goals help us have purpose and direction in a world that places distractions in our path.
HOW TO MAKE GOALS STICK:
Here’s the thing. With anything we do in life, we must have grace for ourselves and our family. Don’t set out to reach a goal that may not be realistic right now (maybe lack of finances is the cause, or children that are too young for a certain milestone). Think about yourself, your personality, and your likes and dislikes. Think about your children, their personalities, and so forth. As you make goals for your marriage, think about your unique relationship with your husband. When making your goals it also helps to have a word for the year so that every goal you make is intended for that word. For example, if your word is “Peace”, then every goal you make for yourself, family, and marriage, should support your efforts in attaining peace.
Also, timing is everything, right? So, stagger out the timeline of your goals. Divide up your year into three brackets: three months, six months, and twelve months. Decide where you want each goal to be. Maybe the goals that seem a little more intimidating should go in the three-month bracket so that they are completed first and set you up for more success in the months ahead. However, if one of your goals is to buy your first home, that obviously takes time to save, search for the right home, and move altogether, so that may be a goal you place in the twelve-month bracket.
Lastly, accountability with people who love you and your children is a huge step in sticking with your goals. When others who support you know that you have goals that you are reaching for, they’ll be there to encourage you when you want to give up, and push you forward when you lack the motivation to succeed. Maybe it’s your husband who holds you accountable, or your best friend. Whoever it is, get them on your side, ask them to pray with you through your ups and downs, and let them speak truth into your situation.
Friends, I have a good feeling about 2019. I believe God is working on your behalf and I am eager to see the amazing things that God will do. Remember that God has mapped out your year; He has gone before you. No matter the valley you pass through, or the hill you climb, God is there with you. May you and your family have a blessed and healthy New Year!